“You should try therapy.” Pause. What’s your instinctive response to that statement? Agreement? Disagreement? Scepticism? Laughter? Something else? (I’d like to hear what you chose!) In my experience—and I’m sure, that of anyone who’s worked in mental healthcare—scepticism is super common. And I find that equal parts frustrating and fascinating, because a lot of people [...]
A question of empathy
In which I explore the difference it would make if we re-imagined reviews as an exercise in empathy.
What to do with privilege
One way to find out about something you’re blind to is to run into it and get smacked in the face. That’s how it’s often happened to me anyway. Like one night when I came face to face with my own unconscious bias within my marriage. I liked to cook over the weekend, so I [...]
What Being Human is all about
I write about being human from the perspective of faith, behavioural psychology and technology. Here’s how I think of the three.
Let us lament
The world has always felt broken, if you’ve been paying attention, but this year feels particularly so. And in the midst of it all, I’ve come to find a deeper appreciation of lament. Join me.
The past is very present
We think of time as an obstacle, as something in our way. What if it instead as THE way—as the thing that gets us where we want to be?
Wealth is something others have
A meditation on wealth, envy and who we associate them with.
Collecting versus Connecting the Dots
We are all familiar with the phrase, “Connect the dots.” And yet we spend far more energy collecting dots. Why is that, and what can we do to change it?
Anxiety Disorders: Alarms Gone Wrong
If you think of anxiety as an alarm system I was recently trying to explain to a patient about the panic attacks they were having and to help them understand what the issue was without making them feel like I was saying, “It’s all in your head.” (Which she had already heard too many times.) [...]
Coronavirus, communication and connection
Our relationship to tech is changing—and with it our relationships, period—since coronavirus made the jump from medical textbooks to everyday language.