The short—and obvious—answer: write a ton. The long answer—how I wrote the ton—is this essay.
Say yes, not no
If you’re struggling to say no to something maybe you should try saying yes instead. Not to the same thing, of course! But instead of focusing on what you don’t want, why not focus on what you actually want? Because, let’s face it: every no in one direction is a yes in another direction. Put [...]
Peace in our time
We're only as whole as our relationships—to be healthy, physically and mentally, is not something we find inside, but around us: in the richness of our connections to the people and things that surround us.
The power of a decision
"I don't know if I can." I hear those words all the time, in my work and from friends. They often come as the person is feeling challenged to take a step in a new direction, to make a hard decision. And by "hard" I mean a decision that feels necessary to take and impossible [...]
Good art demands good critics
All frustrating criticism to one main issue: dishonesty. And the fundamental dishonesty at the core of poor criticism is self-centredness.
On insecurity
A person is secure when they have two core convictions in place: That something belongs to them That it won't be taken away without their permission. When either of these convictions is shaky, we have what I call “ownership uncertainty”, which is what leads to the feeling we know as insecurity. This uncertainty can often [...]
The church’s fear of losing power
Shortly after the US elections, I posted on a WhatsApp group I’m on that I feel sorry for any Christian who hasn’t seriously interrogated their faith in the last few years.
We take change for granted
It's sometimes too easy to take for granted how amazing the times are that we live in. But it's also quite natural for us to.
We believe what we find believable
People on both sides of every argument throw facts at each other, certain any reasonable person must draw only one conclusion from these facts. But that’s not the case.
Ignore your way to happiness
If you were promised £50 and got £100 you’d be delighted. If you'd been promised £200 you’d feel cheated. Same £100, different expectations.