On family—nuclear, extended and mine—and why Winnicott's “good enough parent” is one of my favourite concepts in psychology.On family—nuclear, extended and mine—and why Winnicott's “good enough parent” is one of my favourite concepts in psychology.
Success is how you define it
How successful you feel is often more about how you define success than it's about what you've achieved. That’s not just to feel good—it’s the most practical thing.
Living on your terms
How I went from being a pushover to speaking up for myself, asking for what I wanted and refusing what I didn’t.
Devils and details
My first bit of fiction: A policeman's ordinary day gets turned upside down.
Living in return
The first time I returned to faith was on a balcony in my medical school. I’ve returned a few more times since. This is what that’s been like.
Giving the performance of my life
I’ve never been been a natural performer. So it’s nerve-wracking to know you’re being judged by how well you perform. But that’s how engaging with humans works, and like everyone else I’ve had to figure it out.
Sometimes I get tired of me.
A friend recently asked if I ever feel life is futile. My first thought: "You mean that permanent feeling on my mental horizon?" Here's how I live with it.
When you make a mistake…
What do you do when you get it wrong? Just keep going.
Safe versus strong
Choosing safety at the expense of strength can leave you neither safe _nor_ strong, while risking safety to build strength might be your best shot at actually being safer.
Responsibility as a line or a path
Even when we don’t know where certain paths will take us, don’t we often know enough to not start off on them?