It’s hard to recognise my own emotional problems

The value of emotional insight Photo credit: Dmitry Ratushny (via Unsplash) It might seem weird: how, you might wonder, does a person not know they have emotional problems? Especially someone like me, who’s trained in mental healthcare. There’s several ways to answer that question, but for now let’s just say it’s sort of like how […]

The Story-View Manifesto: It’s time to own your story

You’re a storyteller. You may not feel like it or think about it, but that’s because it’s so ingrained into who you are, into your very DNA, that you don’t have to be conscious of it. Like your eyes, you see things through the stories you tell, which is exactly why they can remain invisible […]

Why you should stop saying “I can’t imagine what you’re going through”

And why going through similar stuff as people isn’t that essential The reason, in one word: empathy. But I’ll need to unpack that, so read on. When stuff happens to people and we say, “I can’t imagine what you must be going through,” I get it but I think it’s misguided. I think we mean to […]

Not all thinking about death is morbid

A meditation on “dark” subjects Photo: Neil Thomas I often think about what others consider dark topics. Pain. Suffering. Death. Evil. And I’m not just interested in them for their own sake — which is why I don’t consider my interest morbid (as some have described it), but rather for the questions that they raise. I’ve always been one to ask […]

What’s wrong with how we think about pain and suffering?

I was about 14 when two of my closest friends lost their fathers and another one lost a brother, all within 12 months. Their bereavement was my first personal experience with death. For some reason I can’t now remember (the books I read probably), I knew enough then to know I knew nothing of what […]

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