There’s a world of difference in how we see ourselves and how others see us. I’ve often been described as intense. I’m the kind of person who tends to come on too strong and speak (or write) too forcefully. Sometimes it’s considered a good thing, and I’m perceived as confident. Other times and with other […]
All frustrating criticism to one main issue: dishonesty. And the fundamental dishonesty at the core of poor criticism is self-centredness.
People on both sides of every argument throw facts at each other, certain any reasonable person must draw only one conclusion from these facts. But that’s not the case.
I’m suspicious of nice people. Or, to be precise, people who have niceness as an ideal. Allow me to explain…
“Love your neighbour as yourself” doesn’t mean you can’t love yourself until you love your neighbour. Here’s what it’s really about…
I was recently in a conversation with a friend who asked my opinion on something related to men, to which I responded with my standard question when people request my thoughts: “What do you think?” Basically, I feel like I can respond better when I know where you’re coming from: what your thoughts already are and what […]
In which I explore the difference it would make if we re-imagined reviews as an exercise in empathy.
The value of emotional insight Photo credit: Dmitry Ratushny (via Unsplash) It might seem weird: how, you might wonder, does a person not know they have emotional problems? Especially someone like me, who’s trained in mental healthcare. There’s several ways to answer that question, but for now let’s just say it’s sort of like how […]
A meditation on living with existential dread Death doesn’t make me as anxious as life—and living—does. And I know I can’t be the only one. Right? Right? I don’t know for sure if that’s something everyone feels. Like, I’m sure there are those who know of what I speak, but I’m not sure that’s everyone. […]
And why going through similar stuff as people isn’t that essential The reason, in one word: empathy. But I’ll need to unpack that, so read on. When stuff happens to people and we say, “I can’t imagine what you must be going through,” I get it but I think it’s misguided. I think we mean to […]