What if we fail at new habits because we try so hard?

How I went from non-runner to running lover in 4 weeks of taking things easy A right hand, holding unlaced running shoes in a green field (Courtesy Kristian Egelund, via Unsplash) I am a runner. I couldn’t have said this a month ago. I wasn’t even thinking about running then. But somehow, in just four weeks, […]

Who is my neighbour?

Wanting to justify himself, he asked, “Who is my neighbour?”Luke 10:29 (paraphrased) This was the lukewarm response to perhaps the most profound words ever uttered. But, let’s be honest, it’s a response we’re all familiar with, isn’t it? Few of us, if any, have a problem with the idea of loving our neighbour. The tricky […]

It’s hard to recognise my own emotional problems

The value of emotional insight Photo credit: Dmitry Ratushny (via Unsplash) It might seem weird: how, you might wonder, does a person not know they have emotional problems? Especially someone like me, who’s trained in mental healthcare. There’s several ways to answer that question, but for now let’s just say it’s sort of like how […]

Judging a movie by its book is like judging kids by their parents

It’s simply not fair to either side (Photo credit: Denise Jans on Unsplash) “Movies aren’t as good as books.” Might as well say: “Kids aren’t as good as their parents.” That one comes from the other doesn’t justify judging both on the same scale. As media, books and movies are as different as children and parents […]

Can we all just admit life gets tiresome?

A meditation on living with existential dread (Photo credit: Mario Azzi) Death doesn’t make me as anxious as life—and living—does. And I know I can’t be the only one. Right? Right? I don’t know for sure if that’s something everyone feels. Like, I’m sure there are those who know of what I speak, but I’m not […]

In a world of fake news, the truth is not enough—we need honesty with heart

Let’s be honest about being honest (Photo by Kristina Flour on Unsplash) “Well, but that’s just the truth.” “I’m sorry, but I can’t lie — I say it like it is.” “I’m a blunt person.” That’s what you say when you’ve said something you believe is true, but unpleasant. I’ve often said them myself. And as social media […]

How you can use storytelling to lead more effectively

A model for influencing the people you get to lead There are at least three elements you need to lead. FollowersA destinationA story All three are equally important, and none, strictly speaking, matters more than any other — like with shoes, missing one leg is tantamount to having none. And yet, for that very reason, a shoe with […]

Why you should stop saying “I can’t imagine what you’re going through”

And why going through similar stuff as people isn’t that essential The reason, in one word: empathy. But I’ll need to unpack that, so read on. When stuff happens to people and we say, “I can’t imagine what you must be going through,” I get it but I think it’s misguided. I think we mean to […]

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