The power of the therapeutic relationship.
On family—nuclear, extended and mine—and why Winnicott’s “good enough parent” is one of my favourite concepts in psychology.On family—nuclear, extended and mine—and why Winnicott’s “good enough parent” is one of my favourite concepts in psychology.
How I went from being a pushover to speaking up for myself, asking for what I wanted and refusing what I didn’t.
I’ve never been been a natural performer. So it’s nerve-wracking to know you’re being judged by how well you perform. But that’s how engaging with humans works, and like everyone else I’ve had to figure it out.
My name is Ayomide and I want to talk about names: what they mean, who gets to give them and why all of it matters.
Shaving with Hanlon’s razor about once a week helps me stay generous and avoid cynicism. No, Hanlon isn’t a brand of blade, and it’s certainly not for shaving my beard. It’s a super helpful principle for thinking about why people do what they do. You might say it’s for “shaving” human motivation. I like to […]
We tend to mistake uniformity for unity. Uniformity is about looking the same, while unity is about actually being one.This means that unity is internal: it begins with agreeing on some fundamentals as being most important and then working together to build in alignment with those fundamentals. Uniformity, on the other hand, is external: looking […]
The two adults who had the greatest impact on me growing up took me seriously—but didn’t take themselves too seriously.
For a typical Nigerian, a small wedding is maybe 300 guests. That’s big in the UK: The difference is due to circles of obligation.
“You should try therapy.” Pause. What’s your instinctive response to that statement? Agreement? Disagreement? Scepticism? Laughter? Something else? (I’d like to hear what you chose!) In my experience—and I’m sure, that of anyone who’s worked in mental healthcare—scepticism is super common. And I find that equal parts frustrating and fascinating, because a lot of people […]