One way to find out about something you’re blind to is to run into it and get smacked in the face. That’s how it’s often happened to me anyway. Like one night when I came face to face with my own unconscious bias within my marriage. I liked to cook over the weekend, so I …
Category archives: Relationships
Power trips in relationships
Let’s talk about the threefold power rule I once heard a preacher say people are never jealous of your success; what upsets them is your showing off. It was one of those statements that grab you like the glint of gold catching a miner’s eye, indicating a rich vein of treasure beneath. In this case, …
Who is my neighbour?
Wanting to justify himself, he asked, “Who is my neighbour?”Luke 10:29 (paraphrased) This was the lukewarm response to perhaps the most profound words ever uttered. But, let’s be honest, it’s a response we’re all familiar with, isn’t it? Few of us, if any, have a problem with the idea of loving our neighbour. The tricky …
Shameless
A poem for the woman I love My body tingles at your tender touch my eyes ever savour your smileand my ears endlesslylong for your laugh—but my bottomlessshameless need? Your pride in me. A response to Terijo’s “Need Prompt” in Intimately Intricate
The unexpected lesson no-one told me about marriage
My most important lesson after nearly a year I’ve been married nearly a year & thought I’d write on my biggest (and most unexpected) lesson from the past year. And it’s this… Marriage is HUMBLING. I don’t know exactly if it’s because people don’t talk about it, or I didn’t listen well or if I just …
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How to be smart about being smart
7 lessons from superheroes. Being smart is great, but if you’re not smart about it, being smart can land you in a world of hurt. (And that wouldn’t be very smart, now, would it?) Before I say more about that, I should clarify how I’m using “smart” here: By “smart,” I mean being better than …
Why we all can’t get along
A Parable About Unity Under Lock and Key A key and a padlock met for the first time. “You look funny,” said Key. “You look weird,” said Lock. “I’m slim, I’m long, and I have beautiful detail on my edges. You’re heavy and just shapeless.” said Key. “Me? I’m all nice and rounded, with intricate internal workings. …
What a 13-year old taught me about parenting and life
And 2 things you need to start doing before it’s too late Yep. One of my biggest life lessons came from a 13-year old girl. First, some background. I’ve volunteered for over a decade with a Lagos-based nonprofit working with secondary school kids. We had been in their school that day, splitting up in pairs to …
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12 lessons from loving my wife
Especially, seeing as yesterday was Valentine’s Day ❤ I love my wife. And loving her has been an ongoing lesson in love and pain, life and death, and a rollercoaster that’s taken us through joy and sorrow and ecstasy and misery. I first wrote this awhile ago, because I think by writing, and we were in …
Love in three haiku
A poem for Valentine’s Day Love: putting your life in the hands of someone else – and at their mercy Getting the person of your dreams, then taking on their own dreams with yours All just fun at first, Until it hits you — love is really life and debt.